Ok, I realized Indian weddings are a big business. For everybody involved. You start shopping months and month before the wedding. Even normal middle class families would throw away atleast a lac rupees on gold. And atleast 10 sarees for a bride, who in most cases would have worn sarees on her school and college farewells. Invariably all this stuff is confiscated before and after the ceremony by parents in the name of safety. So the bride would have no clue as to what she actually owns and what belongs to her mom.
Talk of sarees, there is a lot of give and take. Every aunt is gifted one and has to gift one. The bride's mom buys about 50-100 sarees before the wedding and ends up with just about that many after the wedding.
Then come the choultry guys. They charge a few lacs rupees for flower arrangements and rentals. And then the grand menu and mass cooking. Greasy yummy food 3-4 times a day for 2 days...
Trival relatives of the groom who expect extreme respect. Every groom's acquaintance who wants to be introduced to her, whether she would remember or not. General relatives who drop into the bride's room to dress up themselves and not even bother about the bride. The beauticians who work on the bride for hours and at the end get shouted at for ruining her best day, maybe because she never saw herself look that different.
In the end, it is a few (or many) lacs of rupees, 2-3 days of ceremonies, loads of strangers and a confused couple forcing day long smiles. It is just once in a life time. So you might try and as well enjoy all of it.