Sunday, November 23, 2008

Growing up..

I realized I haven't kept in touch with a lot of friends and thought we shall all have a re-union. Planning the people and mentally calculating their attendance feasibility, it just struck me that hardly any of my friends are the same as we were when we departed. I mean in terms of responsibility, commitments etc. Most of my girls are either engaged or married and most guys are off to different countries pursuing education and money. So! everyone's progressing, while I still happen to be the same. (not that I am craving to be drowned in commitments or married)
Me considered meeting up with people in Bangalore. But looks like people are so immersed in their lives, that they would rather spend a weekend with their better half than others. Acceptable!
Another thing that struck me: Why is the above point mostly right with girls than with guys? Something to do with guy-guy bonding that stays strong despite the addition of other relationships. And the girl-girl bonding doesn't....
Maybe because boozing ad guffaw-ing cant accept a female partner but shopping can accept a male partner

22 comments:

s w a t said...

//But looks like people are so immersed in their lives, that they would rather spend a weekend with their better half than others.//
What with college romances brewing, friends are still available to their significant others ONLY! :(
I always admire guy-guy bonding. It's hassle free and very pragmatic. Wanted to do a post on this.. Will do it soon :)

Sneha Divakar said...

not just limited to college romances, right? even after your partner matures into fiance and hubby, you still give last preference to others

the stygian sailor said...

who said boozing and guffawing cant accept female partners? it is more like shopping accepts a male parter only at knife point.
also, no one is ever the 'same' :)

Prasad said...

even after 10 years i can go up to my friend - a guy and ask hey MOFO how u doin? and you kno thtz a good thing!

Kanupriya Sindhu Ramrakhyani said...

Ah, nice one and quite true as well. I liked the last line most! Generally priorities change with passing phase of life esp. of women as in most of the cases its women who have to adjust in different and new roles of personal life starting from being a girlfriend, wife, daughter in law, mother and to add to that there is always this career pressure to cater to as well.
But having said that I seriously think that sometimes that gal-gal outing is very important, sometimes you really need that girlfriend of yours to share something even if you have a very close relationship with your partner. So, letting go off your old girly ties because of new relationship is not right and trust me most of the women regret doing so at some or other stage of thier life :-)

Sneha Divakar said...

well said Kanupriya. very true! but somehow men dont feel that burden of getting adjusted to the new roles of husband, SIL, father etc... is it the general male gene to take it easy?

Nautankey said...

Very true..that somethign still undecipherable,why girls are tied down after marriage?.I do miss the girls[or non-boys as we used to tease them:P] during our innumerable classmates meet ups. May be their hubbies n in-laws are not that mature and if they have kids its more than understandble.. Still there is some mystery bcoz guys do meetup after all these commitments..oh i am going into a vicious circle now :)

Sandeep said...

stay young.. make new (younger) friends, do things you've never done before... don't think what should i do next.. Where should i be..

And most importantly stop thinking about others!! :)

Sneha Divakar said...

i'd love to follow that sandeep. but can you actually run away from reality and stop bothering about others?

Psych Babbler said...

Ahh...the ultimate battle --- trying to have a reunion. We were able to only have mini ones due to everyone's priorities. And this was when we were in college. It's probably become worse now with everyone in different parts of the world and different jobs. But as a woman, I would still like to think I'd place my friends before I'd place my partner...only coz I would have known my friends for longer.

PreethZzZ said...

things change... life goes on!! ppl change... girls somehow have more responsibility and pressure perhaps thts y?!?! altho i have to say... wit high school friends we r all very much still in touch and closer than ever! hope it lasts! reunions can be great... and its amazing to see where everyone is in their life!

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Sandeep said...

You can only be happy as much as you want to be..

Manasa said...

hahaha... I've been in your shoes.. Make new friends n catch up with them.. Why brood about the past or about someone who don't even remember us ??

Varun B R said...

I don't booze but I still meet people. So u are wrong.
Nevertheless, im somewhat waiting for 06.06.2031 :)

Sneha Divakar said...

varun, you are actually looking forward for the 25th year reunion? how many people do you think will turn up? esp women classmates...

Sneha Divakar said...

manasa, come to think of it, people actually dont bother about you/ or any friends when they move on to their extended families.

Varun B R said...

One thing, I think, I understand is a kind of fear for the unknown which is sort of influencing ur thought process. Although marriage, more often than not, seems to confine people, I think it can be overcome. Though very far fetched, Sudha Murthy is one amazing example.

I personally feel valuing the past and the people there in is invaluable.

Im sure u will turn up on the day, won't you?

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praddy said...

wen it comes to friendship or bonding, the guy-guy bonding type is better :)

Warriorwithin said...

naananthu bartheenappa........

Santosh said...

ooooo ! nice topic u touched here !!!

I agree that over time you lose touch, we change, People change and its gets more and more difficult being in touch ! I agree with what your friend Sandeep had to say... Keep making friends :o)

From my college and early job days, I hv hardly met any Girl ever since ... in touch with many of the guys though !!1

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